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Just wanted to share this insight about my 13 year old son.

He had his end of term band concert.It was a BBQ fundraiser and outdoor concert!

He plays the trumpet.

We were a bit late but he is MR punctual so he was a bit worried that he was running late.

I tried to reassure him that it would be fine.. but he KNOWS his teacher..

Suddenly  a thought came to me..

I said to him he if your teacher says anything to you just get really mad and say to him:

"Look I do not want to hear anything,.I have been in the BBQ line trying to get a hot dog. After waiting half an hour they tell there are no vegetarian hot dogs.I am tired and hungry and angry !and I can't..."

He looked at me and started to laugh..( of course there is no way I expected him to do this so he realized the ridiculousness of what I was saying!) I continued to improvise getting more and more ridiculous.He laughed harder and harder.By then we arrived and he was fine.

I realized that laughter shifted the energy of anxiety for him.We are still laughing today about it!

Often times we are so preoccupied in trying to talk to others.We  explain in long lectures that do not work..when laughter could make the shift!

Next time you are in a fix, try laughter..Let me know how it works!!

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Kids understand what they may not be able to articulate

Sit Down So That I Can Take Off Your Shoes
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"Sit down so that I can take off your shoes," I said.

He calmly sat down on the floor and held out his feet.

That's no big deal except for one small fact.

The person whom I was talking to was Christian, our 18-month-old
son. He can't talk, at least not legible enough for anyone to
understand. He can say Mama, Daddy, and Robbie (his babysitter)
but that's the full extent of his comprehensible vocabulary.
Everything else is just unintelligible grunts.

So what's so special about Christian sitting down and holding
out his feet? He understood what he himself can't put into
words.

Kids understand what they may not be able to articulate.

They understand tones, emotions and whether something is said in
love or frustration.

They can't spell bitterness... but they understand it.
They can't spell anger... but they understand it.
They can't spell hate... but they understand it.
They can't spell resentment... but they understand it.
They can't spell not being wanted... but they understand it.

Neither can they spell love... but they understand it.
They can't spell concern... but they understand it.
They can't spell patience... but they understand it.
They can't spell sacrifice... but they understand it.
They can't spell "I put you over my own needs..."
but they understand it.


You would be surprised what kids who can't articulate their
feelings, reactions and thoughts, understand.

The adults around you often can't or won't articulate their
feelings either.

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